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I’m a thirty-something gay man married to a thirty-something gay man. For almost two years, we’ve been seeing…

Married guy here. I’m 33, the wife is 31. Our fifth anniversary is next month but we’ve been together for almost…

I’m a straight man who’s been dating a woman for not quite four months. In the beginning things were light. But…

I’m a 29-year-old straight woman in Pennsylvania. My question has to do with choking and consent. I’ve had two…

I’ve been married for thirty years to the same man. I have dealt with his tantrums, his screaming, and his fits.…

I’m a cis male in my late twenties. I’ve recently become consumed by a specific fantasy I fear is unattainable, a…

I’m a 35-year-old woman. I recently discovered I’m a size queen. (Is it OK for me to use this term?) This has been…

I’m a 38-year-old bi woman who has been sleeping with a married male coworker for the last eight months. We’re a…

I’m a gay guy who’s involved with a guy I met a few months before COVID-19 took off. He’s a great guy, smart, funny,…

I’m a twenty-something more-or-less lesbian in an East Coast city. I’m primarily into women, and I’m only interested…

Is it terrible to believe you can still have a truly monogamous and loving relationship with one partner after…

My wife asked me to write to you about our situation. We’ve been married for fifteen years. I am 50 years old and my…

I’m a lesbian in a long-term relationship. After much conversation with my partner we’ve decided to explore…

I have a question. I’m a gay man in a relationship and we’re both really happy since we met a year ago. We’re “open”…

I’m committed to my male partner and he’s committed to me. (I’m a woman.) But we both understand we need to flirt…

I’m a 32-year-old straight guy. My wife and I have been married for four years and together for nine. We have a…

Hey, everybody: We had our first Savage Love Livestream event last Thursday night and I had such a blast! A huge…

Here goes: I’m a 32-year-old gay male and I have trouble staying out of my head during sex. I feel like there may be…

I don’t want to become one of those people who write to you complaining about how I married someone I wasn’t…

Here’s a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish marriage. I vote left, I abhor hatred…