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I know you and other sexperts say that kinks are ingrained and not something you can get rid of, but mine have all…

I’m a gay guy living in New York in his late twenties. My boyfriend has really been emotionally impacted by the…

I’m positive you’ve written something about this in the past. I have searched your archives but have only managed to…

I’m a 30-year-old straight woman in a three-year relationship with my live-in partner, who is also 30. I love him…

Sex-positive bi woman here. I have recommended your column to many people over the years to help them feel normal…

I could really use your advice. I recently found my boyfriend’s HIV meds while I was house-sitting for him and went…

As you can see by my signature, Dan, I’m a linguist. On your podcast you frequently ask researchers “whatchyougot”…

We’re an adventurous, bisexual, non-monogamous, opposite-sex couple with a teenage kid living in Europe. We don’t…

One of my very close friends, a lesbian, has been married for a couple of years now. It’s been nothing but drama…

We hosted our second Savage Love Livestream last week and it was a blast. I ran my mouth as fast as I could but…

I’m wondering if you can help me with some dream interpretation. If it helps for context, I’m a single 29-year-old…

Something is bothering me and I don’t know where else to turn. I’m a bisexual man. I’ve been married to a great guy…

I’m a lesbian and my girlfriend is bi. I’ve read your column and listened to your podcast for a long time, Dan, and…

My boyfriend and I were friends for a couple of years (we’re both 30-year-old gay men), then I stopped traveling…

I’ve always been excited by BDSM but I’ve only minimally explored this side of myself until very recently. I’m a…

Why are threesomes much more accepted in the popular imagination than foursomes? I was just googling “finding…

I’m a nearly-80 straight male, with undiminished libido. I have no problem with it, just a persistent curiosity.…

I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful guy for the past year. The only problem is that he works with a girl he…

Borrowing Gen Z’s love for labelling everything, I’m a 46-year-old homoromantic asexual Canadian faggot. For me that…

My husband recently passed away. He was a wonderful person and we had twelve great years together. He was also very,…